ESFJ

warmth, thorough, cooperation, conscientious, outgoing, systematic, gracious, sympathetic, generous, service, harmony, tactful, concrete, detailed, responsible, practical, orderly, tradition, follow-through

Overview

*give everything they have to those they love
*they treat everyone fairly and want all contacts to be harmonious
*they adore their parents and are very much influenced by their opinions and their desires for them
*they work well with others and prefer to combine their efforts
*everything in its proper place on an appropriate schedule
*‘they measure twice and cut once’ to ensure accuracy (Kroeger)
*would rather play the game than change the rules
*they believe even the smallest kindness matters
*need to be appreciated and respected for what they are able to accomplish
*they can be easily hurt by indifference and crave appreciation from those they are with
*they love harmonious relationships
*often they are first to volunteer their assistance
*at any age they need to feel loved and appreciated
*they feel guilty if a group they work with does not cooperate— they want others to be happy with them
*they are friendly, helpful and obedient
*they bloom when they are praised and supported and they wilt if they are criticized
*they really love people— they shine is social situations
*love to do something else for someone— love to make everyone comfortable
*they are one of the most social and people connected of they types
*especially dependable, thorough, conscientious, systematic and very hard working
*have a respect for facts, they are patient with detail, practical, realistic, friendly, tactful, sympathetic, and definitely aware and concerned for the here and now
*sympathetic, generous, loyal and traditional
*play the harmonizer and pleaser ( may have difficulty saying no to friends)
*have a very strong need for harmony and approval
*preference for structure and practical suggestions
*value harmony above all things
*they admire people openly
*they are very conscientious— they have firm ideals/people integrity
*they assume friends know they need the same kinds of attention and caring they give
*they may choose to avoid complexities
*wants to help but may give too much advice to friends and irritate them with too much guidance
*it is difficult for them to hide their emotions— they are always plainly visible often meet friends very early on and maintain friendships for life

Cautions

*they sometimes have difficulty seeing the positive of circumstances (doom & gloom)
*they do not happily embrace change
*may try so hard to agree with others that they give up their own ideas
*not always that interested in struggling with complex thinking tasks
*they will certainly defer to an authority figure( parent, teacher, clergyman) as a source of their opinions and attitudes
*under stress can seem inflexible and opinionated and quick to make judgements as they draw conclusions about others or their world— the younger they are the more often they will judge too quickly- may judge prematurely or too severely
*may take themselves and their circumstances very seriously ( especially interpersonal situations)
*other people have great influence over their emotions —have difficulty with alone time
*may ignore things that hurt or offend them
*often not as aware of their own emotions than they are with other’s emotions
*once they learn something one way it is quite difficult for them to break out of the pattern
*will sometimes feel used by others both materially or emotionally
*turn off or reject anyone who they feel is cold, insensitive
*may have difficulty understanding an objective perspective of themselves
*do not respond to criticism
*may need helping appreciating and adapting to points made by T
*may be blind to disagreeable facts
*need to be careful that in taking care of everyone else that they do not forget to take care of themselves

Gifts

*they are warm, very engaging and kind
*they will befriend, persuade and direct others
*loyal, dutiful and hardworking
*consuming need to help, teach and unite
*special brand of caring
*have strong commitments and convictions
*work to find consensus and improve morale
*take family and social obligations very important
*excellent interpersonal skills—- it seems very easy for them to immediately establish rapport with individuals they just met
*easily relate to other and can easily read people’s emotions
*usually have a vast social network— superb people skills
*their ability to read and relate to people—-they can skillfully discern the most effective route to influencing them— they try to meet the needs of others
*want everyone to get along, be well cared for
*will defer their own needs for the sake of the collective good
*they love drama, music and enjoy performing often in choirs, bands or orchestras
*they have a good sense of color and often use their hands on skills to create jewelry or paint or carve wood etc. if *they paint it is a realistic rendering
*they can be ingenious at solving real world problems in very practical, caring, tactful but at times no nonsense ways